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The Rules

Code Of Conduct

Cape Town Jacks events provide a safe, respectful space for all participants. Attendees must follow club rules to maintain this experience. While we trust in self-regulation, club admins will enforce rules when needed. We appreciate our members’ commitment to a positive and inclusive environment.

1. JO ONLY

Sexual activity is strictly limited to masturbation & mutual masturbation (oral sex on select events known as “Special Events” are allowed). Anal sex or play is never permitted at events. Never try and touch, docking, frotting or anything without consent – always ask. 

2. PERMITTED PLAY

  • Self-masturbation and consensual mutual masturbation

  • Erotic and friendly touch

  • Showing-off and watching

  • Parallel penis-to-penis masturbation (“C2C”)

  • Frottage (rubbing bodies together)

  • Kissing, nipple nibbling, licking, sniffing and kissing of the body

  • Masturbation toys like fleshjacks and cock pumps are allowed but MUST be clean and sanitary before sharing

  • You are allowed self-ass play (finger yourself or use a dildo on yourself – no sharing of fingers or anal toys). After anal play with yourself, always clean your hands.

  • No rimming but feel free to hold and stroke another buddy’s butt. 

  • Sharing a cum-rag or coming on each other is allowed. This includes the face.

  • Ball/testicle play and sniffing is allowed. You are allowed to have your cock and balls on another bro’s face. 

3. PROHIBITED PLAY

  • No insertion into others ass (nothing goes inside other people’s assholes – you can not finger a buddy or put a dildo from your ass, up his ass). This includes not putting your finger inside a buddy’s urethra. 

  • No anal – dick in ass.

  • No rimming/ass eating.

  • No cock sucking or balls in mouth on non-special event days.

  • If you don’t have consent, you may not touch another member. Unless the person wears a green armband.

  • If another member tells you to back away or stop something, listen and do it or you will be asked to leave. Even when someone has a green armband.

4. DRESS CODE

Minimum participation is stripping to shirt and briefs. Welcome to be fully naked, in socks, shoes etc. Hats and fetish wear and gear are always permitted (harnesses, straps, vests chaps), and some themes will invite specific clothing. Never wear anything that might tear or cut skin. No woman’s clothing or being fully dressed. Pup play gear fall part of theme nights and as such will not work for normal jerk-off sessions.

5. EJACULATION

  • Warn verbally before you ejaculate. Don’t just breathe heavily. Say it out loud with words.

  • Ejaculate on yourself, the floor or any designated surface.

  • Explicit, mutual consent is required before ejaculating on others. This includes others’ bodies and faces. Yes, you can be a human cum-rag.

  • Always thoroughly wipe up semen from the floor and services – clean your mess. 

  • Never deliberately, without consent, shoot your load on anyone. 

  • Avoid aggressive or prolonged urethra play. ALWAYS ask before even thinking about playing with another mans urethra.

6. EXPLICIT CONSENT & MUTUAL RESPECT

Consent is required before touching another member’s penis (unless they are wearing a green armband). This also applies to kissing. Remember: every person is in charge of their body. You own your body as does every other member you encounter in the playspace. Always ask before touching someone who hasn’t given consent. Be prepared to say “no” and always take “no” for an answer. Never press the issue. We treat each other with mutual respect and human dignity, like brothers.

7. DISCRETION & ANONYMITY

Never, at any time, disclose any member’s identity to anyone, either inside the club or out. Ever. What you do here, whom you see here, stays here. Violation of any member’s identity is grounds for being asked to leave the event and banned. Be aware that you might meet a friend, co-worker or even family member in the digital space or physical space. There is NO PHONES allowed, ever. We do not record or document events – what happens at the jerk-off club, stays at the club.

8. ILLNESS

Do not attend an event if you have or suspect that you may have a disease you can spread to other members in the course of an event. This includes common colds and flu, herpes outbreaks and staph infections. HIV is not considered communicable in the context of club activities (depending on the play you partake in). HIV-positive men are welcome to join the club and participate in events by our rules, as there is no evidence of transmission of the virus through mutual masturbation (cock sucking and cum contact is a different scenario). We recommend all HIV-negative men to consider taking prep medication regardless of the level of play, this way you have peace of mind that you and the guys you play with are protected.

For more sexual health info we recommend visiting Ivan Toms Men’s Clinic.

If you do have an STD infection after an event, please inform the community admin via your dr. to protect your privacy but also so that the community can be informed. Things happen but it’s how we react to it that makes the difference. No judgment

9. ALCOHOL OR DRUGs?

Never bring recreational drugs of any kind to events (weed is allowed), and do not arrive at events intoxicated. Intoxicated members will not be admitted and will ejected from events. Problem behavior will result in termination of membership/banned from future events. All group jack-off events hosted by Cape Town Jacks are drug-free. “Poppers” are permitted at events and if members around consent. Poppers affect men differently so respect men around if they ask that you do not use poppers around them. The Venue does not have a bar or a liquor license and does not sell alcohol but you can bring your cooler bag with alcohol and drinks.

10. PERSONAL HYGIENE

Your body and hands should be clean when you attend an event, with teeth brushed and fingernails trimmed short and smooth. Take care of bad breath and excessive body odour before entering the play space, this includes the smell of smoke (cigarette and weed). The event provides hand soap at all events as well as antibacterial moist wipes. Start every event with a trip to the washroom to wash your hands and use mouthwash, whether you think you need it or not. Do not wear overwhelmingly strong fragrances to events.

11. TALKING

Excessive chatter is discouraged during events. Quiet talk is okay, and hot talk is welcome at any volume. “Conversation” is another matter. Be friendly and sociable, but don’t distract others in the play space. If you’re asked to lower your voice, do so. 

You are welcome to talk to fellow members about sex play that is not permitted at events. For example, while oral and anal sex are never permitted in the club, you can talk about it during the event as long as your fellow members don’t mind. Be yourself.

There is a dedicated no-play chat space for socialising. 

12. WRISTBANDS

Wrist bands are offered at all events as an option for any member to use if he chooses.

  • Red: “Don’t touch my dick or body.”
  • Yellow: “Ask me before touching me.”
  • Green: “You may touch my dick or body without asking first.”
  • Black: Community Volunteer/Admin


This consent shortcut must be 100% honoured by every member at all times during every event. Members are allowed to switch wristbands during the event depending on how they feel. Wristbands are available at all events.

13. TICKET OWNERSHIP  & ACCOUNTABILITY

All information on tickets must be truthful and legitimate. Ticket sales come with a responsibility that extends beyond mere transactions; it involves a commitment to ensuring a safe and enjoyable environment for all participants. When an individual purchases tickets for others, they assume ownership of the participants they represent. If those attendees cause disruptions, violate the event’s code of conduct, or engage in any criminal activities, the buyer of the tickets will be held accountable. This accountability may result in being blocked from future events organized by the same entity and/or being held responsible for damages and/or any criminal charges. By taking such measures, organizers prioritize the well-being of their community and emphasize the importance of responsible ticket ownership. Multi-ticket purchases only apply for Day Pass tickets, not discount membership tickets. 

14. SPECIAL EVENT RULES

At select special events, as listed on the event calendar, oral play—including sucking cock and licking balls—is allowed. However, anal penetration and anal contact remain strictly prohibited. All other standard rules regarding consent, hygiene, and respect still apply. Always ask before engaging in any activity, and remember that boundaries can change at any time. Keep the atmosphere fun, respectful, and consensual.